Maternal Gatekeeping - How Couples Can Work Through It. A Conversation with Dr. Kubra Aytac

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Today we welcome Dr. F. Kubra Aytac. Dr. Aytac is a member of the Children and Parents Lab at The Ohio State University. She holds three M.S. degrees in the fields of psychology and sociology and majored in Sociology and Philosophy with a minor in Political Science and Public Administration.

Her master’s thesis about maternal gatekeeping received the “METU Best Thesis of the Year Award”. Her primary research interests are adult attachment, coparenting, couple relationships, and well-being.

Today we are going to discuss high quality parenting, maternal gatekeeping, and how couples can work past it. Enjoy the episode.

Show Notes

00:00 Introduction
01:21 How do you define high quality parenting?
02:30 This is our 60 second challenge, which means you are going to try to answer this question in 60 seconds or less.

• What is one example activity of high quality parenting?

• What is a second example activity of high quality parenting?

• What is a third example activity of high quality parenting?

10:38 What is maternal gatekeeping?
13:02 Can you explain how maternal gatekeeping can get in the way of a father's involvement?
17:22 Are parents who are gatekeeping aware of what they are doing?
18:12 What is the origin of maternal gatekeeping?
28:26 How can couples work through the problems that arise as a result of maternal gatekeeping?
32:06 Why do mothers want to exclude a parent from responsibilities?
35:30 What is one simple piece of actionable advice you want to leave our listeners with?